Rather than living completely separately just meet for two or three hours
everyday, and the remaining time be alone. You can use the frictions and the
situations that come up in your relationship and be alone too.
In fact whenever 2 people are in love, they should not be together for 24
hours. It is very very harmful to them, and more than that, it is harmful to
the love itself. People kill and destroy their love by being together too
much, because something deep down is violated.
Each is in need of a certain space, and lovers become too interfering in
each others lives, unknowingly of course. They love – so they want to cling
and interfere in each and everything – and that's how every love is
destroyed. Love can be tremendously beautiful if not destroyed. If it is
destroyed it can become the greatest hell there is.
As son as anger or irritation or a desire to be alone arises, you should
immediately separate for a time. Each person needs a physical and
psychological space to himself. Lovers should only meet again when they want
to be together very much, when it has become a really intense desire.
If you live alone too much you get bored. There is no excitement simply you,
you and you. It is monotonous, a single note. You want a change a little
spice. The other brings the change brings another world into your world, and
that is helpful.
If lovers can know this rhythm of being alone and together and constantly
move between the two……….
If the other person loves you he/she will respect your need and if you love
the other you will respect his/her need. If you don't allow the other person
space, by and by one becomes miserable and will escape completely. So give a
little space ….. don't cling.
The greater the freedom in love the greater the possibility of it remaining
forever and ever.
If you make the other happy, your own happiness grows and the other returns
it, and there is no end to it.
osho.
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